There is so much stuff that goes into planning a wedding you want. Sometimes just thinking about the things I need to get done, along with going to school full time, gets so overwhelming that I don't know if I am going to get it all done on time! Venue, invitations, dresses, colors, table clothes, cupcake flavors, favors! My head starts spinning when I think of how much there is left to do! So, here are the top 5 things I wish someone would have mentioned to me when I started planning a wedding.
Invitations are Expensive
After you find the invitations that you've fallen madly in love with you realize no only do you have to order invitations, you have to order response cards and sometimes ever direction cards. Then all of that, including stamps you are sending people about $5 worth of paper, a piece! $5 worth of paper that you'll never see again and that most of them will end up throwing them away once your wedding is done. We ended up making them and printing them at home, we may have just saved ourselves hundreds of dollars.
You Don't Need Save the Dates
Save the dates are lovely but if you're a college kid on a budget why spend more money on paper people aren't going to keep? Mr. ManThing and I actually ended up sending out our invitations when you would send out Save the Dates and called it a day. Save the Dates are fun but you don't need them and I'm sticking to my guns about that one.
Everyone and Their Mother Can Plan Your Wedding Better Than You
I am so appreciative of everyone who has volunteered to help us with our wedding but the, 'Well at OUR wedding we did it this way...' has me pulling my hair out. We are open to any suggestions and because of that we've discovered some fun things but just because my wedding isn't being planned out the same way as yours doesn't make it any less awesome. It just means that we are doing that is right for us. Stick to your guns about what you want.
Wedding Dress Don't Have to be White
My Matron of Honor was actually fully supportive of the fact that I don't want a fully white wedding dress. (She actually got married in Red) I know that some people are going to be a little put off by the fact that my dress wont be all white but the tradition of white wedding dresses is actually a very recent tradition and I will not waver on having an all white dress.
Big Weddings? Who Needs Them?
When explaining to someone that we were having a small wedding they seemed shocked. Why? Her reasoning was that we'll get less stuff. Getting more things is not a good reason to have a big wedding and actually if you are having you're wedding to get stuff you might want to re-think getting married. We opted for a smaller wedding with our closest friends and family because I really wanted to people who meant the most to us at our wedding.
Moral of the Story? Everyone will have suggestions about how to do your wedding but as long as you do what you and your beau want then you'll have a wonderful day that celebrates your first day as husband and wife.